Tuesday 5 February 2019

HOW TO WRITE THE PERFECT TEXT MESSAGE- THANK ME LATER!!

My posts these days may seem a bit random but I guess they are as random as my thoughts.


So basically what happened was, my little cousin, got in trouble with some senior family members and when I heard about it,  I just knew it was unintentional and was just a communication misunderstanding and decided to make it a teachable moment cos I'm grown and all :).
I had to teach my millennial cousin that tone, context, or emotions not expressed in messages can come off rude or impolite. In olden time (haha) people communicated via nice long, handwritten letters or my personal favourite long-ass emails(gimme a 2000 word email any day over a WYD)But with messages having to be so short because no one wants to come off long winded it is difficult to communicate effectively. Unless you have been schooled by yours truly on composing the perfect, text, WhatsApp or 'whatever messaging app you use' message.

The formula is simply this;

  1. Greeting(Hello, Hi, Hola etc).
  2.  State the point of the message; You have to get straight to the point here... remember no long-windedness e.g Thank you for blah blah, I'm sorry about blah blah, Reminder for Yada Yada... you get the point. Keep it short and sweet.
  3. Express a feeling or emotion; This is the most important part of the message, it adds 'heart' and makes you sound sincere(cos you are).  The key here is to use a word that conveys a feeling or emotion eg I was happy to see you the other day, I'm excited about our coffee, I feel bad about not getting back to you sooner, I was overwhelmed with work etc.
  4. End with a pleasantry;  Wishing a wonderful week, hope your day is going ok... you get the picture.

I have used this in different scenarios and I believe it works,  so try it and let me know.


Nemi

Saturday 2 February 2019

IS FOOD OBSESSION RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR CONSTANT STRUGGLE WITH WEIGHT?

We are more informed about good, bad and even superfoods yet, we struggle more than any generation before us. Have we been brainwashed into constantly thinking about food whether good or bad?


I had a bit for a rough year which brought about lifestyle changes coupled with emotional eating and it led to gaining about 10lbs. As a petite 5’3 that makes a lot of difference and while the weight is not so bad, that feeling of not being able to wear some clothes cos they are downright uncomfortable and don’t fit is very annoying.

So I set out to lose the weight and ended up on a yo-yo rollercoaster which has been very frustrating. I feel like I've read so many books and tried so many diets but none of them works even though they all seemed promising at the start.  Something else I noticed on this journey was how each diet had a cult-like following with the founder of the diet as a cult leader where people hang on their every word and take it as gospel. 


My latest obsession was a diet called f- factor, it focused on eating a very high fibre diet and was discovered after a clinical dietician prescribed this eating style for some heart patients and they lost a lot of weight as a result. The writer of the book was a perfect skinny 40 something-year-old mum of 3 with a rich husband and her own business, luxury holidays and mansion on the upper east side of Manhattan, inspirational.  She had regular Instagram live videos to courage her followers to live a healthy lifestyle and teach them easy recipes that you could do with a protein powder she created. Well, everything was all fun and games till I found

Tuesday 23 January 2018

TRAVEL DIARIES: HOW TO DO DUBAI ON A BUDGET

Towards the end of last year, I just felt this desire for a change of scenery, outside of the same old activities-my mind, body and spirit needed some change.


My choice of destination was Dubai, I love Dubai because it guarantees sun all year round. For this trip I stayed in a few different hotels for various reasons the first hotel apartment was;

Abidos Dubailand. Dubailand is an up and coming suburb and there really is nothing around. I wanted to be away from everything and this place was perfect. The apartments are really big, the facilities are great and affordable. They also provide complimentary shuttle services to a few malls and it takes 25 minutes approximately to get downtown. Room service was fairly cheap and there is a supermarket on the ground floor and a fully equipped kitchen if you fancy cooking. I ended up getting upgraded to a two bedroom penthouse suite on the top floor for around £65 a night, now that's a bargain!

Sunday 8 October 2017

STELLA MCCARTNEY CULTURAL APPROPRIATION OR APPRECIATION


Stella McCartney incorporated some African Print/Ankara in her SS18 collection and there has been a lot of controversy about it, folks are accusing her of cultural appropriation. Cultural appropriation is basically adopting elements of another person's culture without respecting or acknowledging its meaning or using it in context. Honestly, it is pretty confusing...
I ran a poll on Instagram and around 65% of people said she appropriated African culture by featuring the prints on the runway without using black models.

Here are some of the comments


When I saw the collection, I honestly felt 'some kind of way', not sure why though. I am a huge fan of African prints and these dresses and patterns are very common in the African community but the prints are originally Dutch wax and are created in Holland so in theory, they are not African but why does it feel weird seeing it on the runway?

There are cool brands like Olótu (www.olotu.co.uk) a British/Nigerian menswear brand heavily features African prints in a westernised context, they don't seem to get as much backlash as Stella Mccartney. Maybe it is because they acknowledge the history and inspiration behind the print.


I believe the world is becoming a global melting pot with creativity and inspirations coming from a plethora of sources. Stella did a great job with the collection "appropriation" or not and as a fellow creative I appreciate her work.  Could she have acknowledged the African-ess of these pieces? Yes!! Whether or not the Africans are the original owners, because they have adopted theses prints and embedded it into their culture they could be acknowledged. #Justsayin





Friday 6 October 2017

LOSE WEIGHT WITHOUT DIETING- 3 THINGS THAT WORKED FOR ME


“Weight loss” is one of the most fantasised terms in this world.  It seems like everyone is crazy about some “diet” and are always on the lookout to find more and more weight loss tips.

This is because the culture today brainwashes us into thinking that being skinny and toned is the secret to happiness, wealth and success 😂😏.

Anyhoo, life could be tough and hectic + following strict diet plans and daily workouts could be exhausting. So how can you maintain a fit and healthy lifestyle without burning out? I have some tried and tested tips that are guaranteed to work whether you are rich, broke, busy, lazy, can’t be bothered, love junk food, love salads, blond or wiggy. Whoever and whatever you like these tips will work for you.

PINA COLADA BREAKFAST SMOOTHIE BOWL




edit2.jpg

  Made with pineapple, banana and coconut

Saturday 5 March 2016

DO MOTHERS GET DESPICABLE AS THEY GET OLDER? #MOTHERS DAY

 Hello friends, hope you are all doing well and having a great week.

 Today's blog title might seem a bit controversial but I need a little favour from you- please don't judge me until the end of the article. 

My mother came to visit about a month ago and  it was great to have her around but sometimes our differences were glaring. I have a pretty good relationship with my mother that came from a place of fearless honesty- sometimes I am amazed at how well she takes some of my frank comments.

Saturday 16 January 2016

DELICIOUSLY HEALTHY COURGETTI BOLOGNESE

DELICIOUSLY HEALTHY COURGETTI BOLOGNESE

This recipe is a simple dinner you can make in less that 10mins, it is delicious and by swapping the regular pasta for some zoodles and draining the mince you are reducing the calories by over 75% (according to my calorie counter). And if you are like me this means there is room for dessert :).
 This is a child's serving btw ;)

Thursday 14 January 2016

WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO ACHIEVE YOUR WEIGHT LOSS GOAL?

 
Hello everyone, hope you are enjoying 2016 and you haven't given up on your NewYear resolutions/goal. The most common goal is to lose weight and for many years my sister and I made the same weight loss resolution and forget we even made it in two weeks times after failing on another fad diet. Over the years the weight finally came off after we discovered what worked for our bodies and today we've achieved our weight loss goals after taking different paths.

Wednesday 6 January 2016

7 NATURAL HEALTH REMEDIES THAT WORK WONDERS

Hello friends hope you are enjoying the first few days of 2016.  This year I'm kicking diets the curb and trying to focus more on being healthier, I've also recently discovered my inner hippie and I'm currently enjoying learning about a lot about natural remedies and how it improves your health.

Here are some a of my favourite remedies.

COLD & FEVER TONIC
8 oz Glass of Fresh Orange Juice

1/4 tsp Cayenne Pepper
One glass every two hours (for six hours) to break fever. Remove certain flu symptoms. This is pretty nice tasting but if you do not like cayenne pepper you can substitute it with some freshly grated ginger.

Friday 1 January 2016

HAPPY NEWYEAR + A LITTLE TRICK THAT WILL GUARANTEE YOU ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS IN 2016

Hello everyone, hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year celebrations.  I had a wonderful Christmas celebrating my mother and father in-law's 40th anniversary with family and a pretty chilled New Year with some curry and Netflix (currently on Scorpion just in case you are wondering).


Last year was pretty eventful with a few health challenges, hence the inconsistency with the blogging. Fret not! I have been busy, working on many exciting projects you will love, guaranteed; and I am looking forward to sharing them with you this year.

Monday 15 June 2015

ARE YOU STILL STRUGGLING TO LOSE YOUR UNDER ARM FAT? THIS MIGHT BE THE REASON.

Hello friends how was your weekend? Mine was super relaxing and I am energised for this week, hope yours was fun and relaxing. 

I have pretty cool post for you guys, I have been studying a lot about hormones lately and wanted to share some of my findings as I believe it will really help someone. Enjoy!

Do you struggle with arm fat, batwings, bingo wings or what Nigerians call ‘christian mother’ (that’s just harsh)? Have you tried everything you know and have lost weight all over but still struggling to shift that under arm blubber? This may surprise you but it is probably not your fault.


I have a friend that struggled with this, she tried every diet known to man and lost a significant amount of weight everywhere but under her arms. It is true that it is impossible to spot reduce, but do you know that most stubborn fat

Wednesday 8 April 2015

HEALTHY EATS REVIEWS : LIVLIFE BREAD REVIEW


Hello everyone,  hope you had a lovely easter break and you are enjoying the AMAZING weather in the UK. I had a pretty relaxing and fun long weekend with the husband and hanging out with some dear friends, it was a great weekend!
This Spring and Summer, I will be doing some healthy eat reviews on some of my favourite good-for- you treats. After learning some hard truths about dieting, I am a big believer of making healthier choices everyday instead of the YOLO and dieting culture that is becoming the norm.

The foods featured in these reviews will be healthier substitutes of foods and snacks people tend to eat. This is to avoid eating bad one day and restricting or fasting the next.
The first review is for LivLife seeded bread; thanks to low carb diets, gluten free and wheat belly, bread is seen the food of demons. I don't know about you but every now and then a slice of toast with butter. PB, marmite or nutella 'gives me life'. With LivLife bread you can enjoy a slice or two with no guilt shame or condemnation. Read the full review to find out why.

Friday 20 March 2015

ADD SOME SPRING TO YOUR WARDROBE- 6 STYLE INSPO

Hey guys hope you are having a good week. It is the first day of SPRING finally and I could not be more excited. I woke up this morning to grey skies then there was a solar eclipse and and it got darker but by 10.30 the sun was shining, birds were singing and blue clouds in the sky.

I have not posted any style posts lately as I have not been inspired due to the loooong winter. I am a huge fan of in between seasons like spring and autumn and can't wait to share some cool spring fashion inspiration with you all. So lets get to it-


FLOATY MIDI SKIRT AND A JUMPER
Very easy to style, wear and super versatile. The jumper keeps you warm as it is generally quite chilly when the sun goes down. A statement necklace is needed if you want to dress up the outfit; because the  outfit is quite simple you have the space to inject your personality with your choice of hairstyle, accessories and shoes.


Monday 16 March 2015

WEEKEND UPDATE: MY EVENING AT THE UK HAIR FELLOWSHIP FOR AFRO HAIR

Hello friends hope you had a lovely Mother's day weekend. I haven't done a weekend update in aaaages as I find taking pictures to capture every moment in life stops you from living in the moment and could be intrusive to friends and family. That being said, I think some moments are better enjoyed when you can capture it and share. OK enough jibber jabber.

Friday 6 March 2015

THAI GREEN CURRY SALAD



Hello friends, hope you are having a great week. I am pleased to be sharing today's Thai green curry salad recipe with you. This salad is delicious, quick and easy to make and will satisfy every thai food craving.
Curries are one of my favourite meals, whether is it Thai, Indian or Nepalese I enjoy them all. There is a new(ish) Thai restaurant in Oxford called Oli's Thai with incredible reviews and after reading countless amazing stories I was semi desperate to try the food already. I tried calling to book a table for 3 consecutive days but could not get through, when I finally got through and tried to book there was a 3 month wait!! The food better be worth it.
In the mean time I decide to console myself with this healthy and low calorie Thai green curry salad cos come the 25th of May I am having a real splurge. 

Here is how I made the salad.


Monday 16 February 2015

SUGAR FREE CHOCODATE HEARTS AND BALLS

Happy Monday everyone and hope you had a wonderful weekend. I had a pretty chilled weekend hanging out with the Husband and catching up and some Scandal with some Chinese...twas really good :).

So like many people out there I struggle with procrastination, when I have so much serious work to do that is when I feel inspired to do mind numbing tasks. This weekend was no exception I spent a good chunk of playing with chocolate creations and honestly it was a lot of delicious fun.

CHOCODATE BALLS